Well, here we are in the first full week of a new year. How are those resolutions coming? I know it’s easy to get distracted right now, what with the Epstein list getting dropped, aliens invading Miami, and the allegedly hottest US Representative to ever allegedly serve allegedly punching her ex-husband over dinner in a Colorado restaurant.
And let’s not mention the naked Alabama man doing cannonballs at Bass Pro Shop.
Or let’s. It’s America, after all.
What we were talking about again? Oh yes, not getting distracted from our goals. Like my goal of writing this post. Yes, it’s the first week of 2024 and hopefully we haven’t yet kicked our resolutions to the curb like last month’s Christmas tree. Whether we want to get in shape, write that novel, consume less news, invade Miami, or keep a tidier house, change is hard. If we enjoyed those disciplines, we wouldn’t need to make them goals in the first place.
Inaction is always easier than action.
The keys, I think, are dedication, removing friction, and grace.
Dedication is different from discipline and accountability. It requires knowing your why. Why you want to make the change. Why it will improve your life. Why it matters. Someone bugging you every week won't help if we don't remember why we asked for that in the first place. If we don’t constantly remember why we’re striving to hit those 10k steps every day, eventually it becomes a chore no matter how much we initially enjoy it. Eventually it may become a habit, something we don’t feel right about if we don’t do it. But having a reason will always, even on the good days, bring us some joy.
Maybe not as much joy as slugging your ex over appetizers, but you still shouldn’t do that.
Still, sometimes dedication isn’t enough. I could come up with a dozen reasons why I should incorporate jumping rope into my fitness routine. But I’d still hate it. If I really want to improve my cardiovascular endurance and coordination, there are other things I can try instead. I don’t want to grind out a jump rope session. Maybe I don’t want to cook a healthy meal every night. I can batch cook. Maybe writing an hour every day is too much, but writing in little bits and dribbles is possible.
Anything is better than nothing.
Finally, we have to give ourselves grace. Grace to adjust our goals and understanding when we fail to meet them that day. New years don’t matter as much as new days, and every day is a new opportunity not to get naked and jump in Bass Pro pond. Some days we may find ourselves choosing inaction as our dedication lags. That’s okay. The main thing is to get back up there the next day, strip off our guilt, and dive back in tomorrow.
Okay, bad example. You know what I mean.