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Book Review: "You Can't Joke About That" by Kat Timpf
May 19, 2023
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Six months after Kat Timpf lost both her mother and grandmother, she went to Coney Island with her dad and boyfriend. The boyfriend who had stood by her side through all the pain. It probably seemed like a nice day, until Dad went for another round of drinks and the boyfriend broke up with her. The poor guy stepped away for a minute, and when he came back his little girl was a wreck. I guess he took it in stride, because rather than slugging the guy he just let the trip continue as planned. 

Kat even sat with her now ex on the Ferris wheel and the train ride home.

Years later Kat had found a new love and had a wedding planned. Things didn’t quite work out as anticipated, though. On her wedding day, instead of her home church, she was in the hospital, horrible pain, and suffering unbelievable indignities. The intervening years had been no picnic. A beloved pet died right before she went in to do an important segment for Fox News, various boyfriends and wannabe boyfriends mistreated her, and she worked herself to the bone (have you seen her? That wouldn’t take long) to build her career.

Did she get bitter? Did she turn hyper-religious? 

No, and kinda? Through it all she kept making jokes a finding humor in her life’s worst moments. As she says in the final chapter, humor became her religion. In You Can’t Joke About That: Why Everything is Funny, Why Nothing is Sacred, and We’re All in This Together, Kat doesn’t just tell her life story. She uses it to back up her thesis. Not satisfied with anecdotal evidence, she digs deep into the academic studies that support her arguments. Along the way, she holds up a mirror to cancel culture, revealing its flaws and hypocrisy. 

If you were expecting a collection of humorous essays, you will be sadly disappointed.

But you'll still smile at her irreverence. 

No one has ever been harmed by hearing a bad joke. But many people have lost their careers, if not their lives, for making one. It’s a reality we don’t often consider, even as we tiptoe around saying the wrong thing. Comedians have to take risks. No one can really know if a bit is going to land until they test it in front of an audience. And if we take away their right to make missteps, the world will be a much gloomier place.

So ever the Libertarian, Kat argues for no limits. 

Without realizing it, her entire book is about a search for grace. Kat wishes she still believed in God, not as she knew Him growing up, but as merciful. She knows how it feels to mess up, to feel not just the embarrassment but also pain of unwittingly saying something horrible in an attempt at a joke. So she’s willing to extend grace, even to people on the other side of the political spectrum. 

I sincerely hope she finds true faith.

God created us in His image, and throughout the Bible He promises to fill our hearts with joy, and reminds us that there is a time for laughter. How could he give us something that He doesn’t have, or encourage us to do something He can’t do? Jesus, God incarnate, told a joke or two. I can’t agree with Kat that nothing is sacred. But maybe the list of sacred things isn’t as long we’ve made it.

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Last year I only made it to the movie theater a couple times. The year before that I only made it once. The main problem is that movies are so darn long! With only four hours to myself most days, an epic has to fall in the sweet spot that fits my limited time. So this Saturday, when I realized Mel Gibson’s latest directorial effort was only 90 minutes, I had to go.

Even if the reviews were so-so and I wasn’t super interested.

There will be spoilers.

While Mark Wahlberg receives top billing, Flight Risk really belongs to Topher Grace and Michelle Dockery. Grace plays Winston, a former mob bookkeeper hiding out in Alaska, who is being flown back to civilization to testify. As you’d expect from the That ‘70s Show Alum, Grace plays Winston as a nervous talker with an obnoxious sense of humor. You know who doesn’t have a sense of humor? US Marshal Madolyn Harris (Dockery). She has the unfortunate task of escorting him.

Very unfortunate.

Because the mob is everywhere. From the get-go, everyone gets an uneasy feeling about the pilot, Daryl (Wahlberg). As well we should, because he’s not the vetted pilot, but a mob hitman. For him, it’s not about the money, either. No. He just likes the game, the torture, the killing. And he’s willing to maim himself to accomplish his goals. Wahlberg plays with different accents, shaved his head, and says incredibly foul things in an unhinged performance.

And Gibson knows when to hold a shot to wring the last ounce of emotion out of his actors.

Things quickly go wrong on the flight, for everyone, and Daryl ends up tied up in the back. Which is good. Except neither Madolyn nor Winston knows how to fly. Which is bad. Using her sat phone, Madolyn is put in touch with Hasan (Maaz Ali), who shamelessly flirts with her as a distraction and to bring some much needed levity to film.

Because there’s a pervasive sense of danger.

Early in the flight, before Daryl is revealed to not be Daryl, the plane hits a bird, leaving a bloody smear across the windshield. That token of death remains throughout the film, the only bright spot in the drab cockpit. Anyone could die at any moment. This isn’t a franchise film. The guardrails of a potential sequel don’t exist. Had this movie been made in another era, our doubts of getting a happy resolution would only be heightened.

And I couldn’t help but think of 1985’s Runaway Train.

Both movies take place in the Alaskan wasteland. Both movies are set on vehicles that cannot stop and, left unimpeded, will crash. Both movies center around two desperate men and a woman who legitimately shouldn’t be there. And let’s just say, Runaway Train doesn’t have a happy ending. But it is satisfying, in its own way.

And Flight Risk is also satisfying.

I really appreciated that push and pull of the story. This isn’t a situation where our protagonists are always losing. Sometimes Daryl gets the upper hand, but when he’s put down, hard, we enjoy it. Every. Single. Time. It might be stupid, petty, or contrived. But in the moment I didn’t care. He had it coming to him.

Ultimately, Flight Risk isn’t a great movie. Certainly a lesser Gibson.

But if he was just looking for a practice run before getting back in the saddle, he proved he can still work on a small scale. The movie delivered exactly what it promised, no more and no less. I know most people aren’t impressed. Me? I enjoyed it for what it was. 

 

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Back in the mid-00’s the USA Network said, “Characters welcome.” Shows like Monk, Burn Notice, White Collar, Psych, Royal Pains, and Suits filled the schedule and TV was, for a time, fun. The shows may not have had the most complex plots, but by the end of the episode you felt good about what you’d just seen. 

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Yes. Ironically, it’s from our neighbors to the north.

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Even if you’re scrolling social media at the same time.

Is it family friendly? Well, Max has curves in all the right places and isn’t shy about showing them off, and sometimes the stories push the boundaries of good taste (with suggestive video and commentary to match). But overall, in fairly inoffensive. I’m not too worried about it going any further than it already has, and I hope Prime gets season two soon.

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Book Review - Levon's Trade by Chuck Dixon

One of last year’s most surprising movies was The Beekeeper, which was a big hit with those who saw it. Otherwise, it didn’t get much (wait for it) buzz. Together, director David Ayer and star Jason Statham made a serviceable action flick in the John Wick mold, but with some political intrigue and in a sillier (yet somehow more grounded) universe.

I liked it.

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Better yet, the screenplay was adapted by none other than Sylvester Stallone.

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Given his political leanings, I don’t expect A Working Man to offend to me with messaging. This isn’t the first time Stallone has written for Statham, as he also penned the screenplay for Homefront, which I have yet to see but will soon. What I appreciate about Stallone’s writing is that mythic elements are always in the back of his mind. He thinks in epic terms even when the stories are small. 

Okay, but what about the story?

Yesterday I read the entire Chuck Dixon novel in about two hours. Levon’s Trade isn’t the most complex thriller out there, but a stripped down, fast-paced, tale of a violent man, Levon Cade, doing what he does best. When it opens Cade is working security at a construction site and establishes himself as someone you don’t mess with if you want to hold onto your teeth. The owner of the company’s daughter went missing after college finals, and since police and private investigators have failed, he turns to Cade for help.

Naturally, Cade refuses.

But he’s involved in a nasty custody battle over his little girl with the father of his late wife. Needing money to fight a battle that can’t be resolved with high powered weapons, he accepts. And once Cade takes on a task, he’s merciless in executing his mission. Turns out, the girl was taken by Ukrainian gangsters, who are just as merciless and even more cruel. Since the guy who took the girl is at the bottom, Cade starts at the top and begins dismantling the entire corrupt organization, digging his was down through the most violent means imaginable.

Maybe you don’t want to imagine, in which case this book isn’t for you.

By the last act it feels like Dixon is skimming over things, which isn’t to say he gets sloppy. Even the minor characters are given adequate backstories and key details are included to flesh out the world. It’s just that Cade is able to find his targets with a very convenient explanation that is left vague. This isn’t a complaint so much as an observation.

A Levon Cade novel is a Jack Reacher story with all the boring parts cut out. 

As for the movie, I think Statham will make for a good Levon Cade, even though the Cade of the novels is American, born and bred. Cade is described as “rangy” with a fighter’s scars around his eyes, and his demeanor is perfect for Statham’s screen personality. I honestly can’t think of a better actor, accent not withstanding. The novel doesn’t wrap up with a Hollywood bow, so it’ll be interesting to see how Stallone decided to handle that.

Overall, I’m looking forward to the movie and will likely read more in this series.

I suspect that A Working Man will be the sleeper hit of the year. 

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