On my drive into town this morning to pick up my orders of raw milk and farm fresh eggs, I listened to the latest episode of the Muscle for Life podcast, with host Mike Matthews. Out of all the fitness experts out there, Matthews seems the most reasonable and sane. My experiences don’t always align with his research, but 99% of the time I’m 100% sure he’s right.
He touched on a topic that’s also been on my mind.
In his Instagram Q&A, he got a question about motivation, and he had a very interesting analogy. Matthews said that there has to be a spark to fan into flame, otherwise you’re just blowing dirt. If there’s no spark of desire to be healthy and fit, well, you’re not going to change your ways. This is one of those times where I know he’s 100% correct. I’m at a point now where I just stoke the fire first thing every morning just to warm up the house.
No one likes a cold house, and it’s especially uncomfortable if you’re not used to one.
But we all have to start somewhere. For me it was a general sense that overweight and hurting wasn’t what I was intended to be. Intended, not just wanted. I’d never been an athlete, but general fitness and stamina was always valued in my house. In my late 20’s I had neither. There was no specific reason why I needed to change. My jobs didn’t require it. I wasn’t missing out on any opportunities.
Being fat just wasn’t right for me. I’d argue that it’s not really ideal for anyone.
There’s any number of tricks and tips to get us moving. Tell yourself you’ll work out for just five minutes and if you don’t feel like going any further you can stop, but you’ll probably want to keep going. Just go to the gym and if the heaviest thing you can make yourself lift is a magazine, at least you’re building the habit of going. Or, pre-workouts are expensive and take half an hour to hit your system: drink one and then don’t waste your money or buzz.
Whatever you do, don’t make exercise a punishment for what you did the day before.
But unless there’s a spark of desire, most of us won’t even be aware that there’s no motivation. Maybe feeling unmotivated is actually the spark of motivation and it just needs fanning. Anyone who has kids or grandkids probably wants the ability to play with them and not just watch. No one wants to spend endless hours and countless sums of money at the hospital in old age. Maybe, like me, you don’t have many opportunities to get out and explore right now.
Should the chance ever come, how disappointing would it be if we were too old and broken down to take advantage of it?
One thought that motivated me was that I don’t know how long I’m going to need this body. Retirement seems unlikely, and I don’t have anyone obligated to take care of me someday. Past generations of men plowed behind horses until old age. If I need to do the modern equivalent, I need to start getting ready now. We never know what’s going to happen. I didn’t know my basement was going to flood as bad as it did. Not to brag, but I don’t know many guys my age (give or take ten years) who could’ve handled it.
Houses and cars come and go. We live in our bodies forever.
I hope that by writing this I’ve thrown some sparks. Now it’s up to you to fan the flame.