As we head into December it’s only natural that we assess the year now behind us. Sure, we know that the rolling over the calendar doesn’t really mean anything, but imaginary benchmarks still carry the meaning we give them. So I have to ask myself, did I do enough in 2022? What could I have done better? Where will I place my priorities next year?
How will I keep going when things get hard?
In my experience, most people don’t want a coach. There are plenty of them out there, so there must be a market. I just don’t know any people who work with one. Coaches design programs to help you achieve your goals, working from a place of knowledge and experience. Sometimes they have certifications, which verify their experience and earn them deservedly higher rates than the average Joe.
But there’s nothing wrong with being an average Joe. Or working with one.
I’m not much one for goal setting. When I decided to take control of my health I never decided on an ideal weight or physique. Nor did I have a date in mind to reach some peak, run a race, lift a certain amount, or do a specific number or reps. That kind of thinking doesn’t motivate me. Some writing assignments require deadlines, which help. But like good coffee, good art can’t be rushed.
I only have one goal: consistency.
Regular, focused, consistent effort gets long lasting results. Diets don’t work because they tend to be built around short-term goals. Yes, starving yourself for a few weeks will get you into that dress in time for the wedding. But you can’t keep it up forever and you won’t keep the weight off for long. Sure, you can write a novel in a month by writing 1,667 words a day. Very few people can maintain that level of artistic output for long.
You’ll burn out.
The best thing we can do is keep putting one foot in front of the other. And it’s okay to ask for help. Everyone has to decide for himself what kind of help he needs. Eventually, however, changes become habits and we don’t need as much accountability because we have discipline. Discipline is the most important thing of all.
Let me say that again: Discipline is the most important thing of all.
I don’t know what kept me going down to the garage three to five days a week when I started training. Maybe it was the low cost, high reward aspect. I felt good after training, and I wanted to feel better all the time. I didn’t need anyone to push me. But some things are just plain difficult or beyond our ability to do alone. Perhaps the key is dialing in the right degree of cost and increasing the reward.
Imaginary benchmarks still carry the meaning we give them.
So if you’re struggling to develop a good habit, like eating right or exercising regularly, or beat a bad habit like porn or hitting the drive-thru every night after work, I’m here to help. I can be your cheerleader, your accountability, your average Joe coach. It doesn’t take special training to check in a couple times a week and give some encouragement. It doesn’t take special training to call you out on your excuses.
Now, put some money on the line.
If you pay for a meal, you’re probably going to eat it. If you buy a movie ticket, you’ll probably sit through the whole thing even if you’re bored stupid. And if you put money toward developing good habits and developing some good, old-fashioned, self-discipline, you want to get something for it. So yeah, I’ll take your money. It’s not mercenary, and it doesn’t have to much. Just enough to motivate you.
Let me know.